While doing research on child development, I've learnt some stuff that I thought I'd share with you. If your child is the same age as mine, that is 4.5 years old, then the following may be of interest to you. I've learnt from the British Standards of Child Development that for a child below 5 years old, they should be able to accomplish the following set tasks or have the following socio-emotional skills to be considered on par with his or her peers.
Self Confidence and Self Esteem
Your child should be able to express her needs and feelings in appropriate ways. If Tee wants a cup of water, she knows how to ask for it. She also knows how to express her dissatisfaction if the water tastes of chlorine!
Your child should be aware of herself and have pride in her own identity and her own abilities. Tee certainly knows who she is and what she's made of. She is proud of the fact that she wears mismatched Crocs and knows she can read better than many of her peers.
Your child should know how to respond to significant experiences, displaying a range of feelings as appropriate. Tee knows that birthdays are happy occassions and exhibits excitement before the occassion. She also knows when something negative happens and will feel sad accordingly.
Your child should not only have a developing awareness of her own needs, views and feelings but also be sensitive towards the needs, views and feelings of others. I would say Tee is still weak in this area because whilst she certainly knows herself very well, she can be insensitive to others whom she does not like.
Your child should have a developing respect for her own culture and that of other people. Actually, I'm not sure how much Tee knows about her culture apart from the fact that she's Malaysian! She knows that there are many celebrations in Malaysia and what each of them signify more or less. I'll ask her tomorrow!
Your child should feel comfortable in seeking comfort, reassurance and help from special people. Oh yes, she will definitiely ask for assistance when needed or get us to 'manja' her. She is not shy at all.
Your child should be able to approach adults with a degree of social skill. I suppose she can do this. She can go up to waiters (strangers) to ask for things......and certainly can ask adults she knows for anything she desires.
Your child should be able to express her wishes and needs clearly and understands when they are not immediately met. Hmm.....I'll say she can perform this with others but with us, her parents (and definitely her grandparents), she may whine if her needs are not met. She's just spoilt and can be manipulative.
Your child should be able to negotiate, argue point of view and accept other's perspectives. Tee has proven this by defending herself and holding her own without our presence. I am very proud of her in this respect. She is also understanding of other's views. It's just ours that she may choose to disagree with!
Your child should show compliance with social expectations. I think this really boils down to how parents set limits for their children and what the definition of social expectations are. Does she sit down and eat in public? Yes. Does she speak with manners? Yes. What else?
Your child should often actively seek sharing and fairness. Errr.....no. She only shares with people she likes and seeks fairness also in a biased manner.
Your child should have a strong sense of fun and humour and is able to engage others in pleasurable interaction. Oh yes, most definitely. Tee is a comedian, well liked by many people.
Your child should positively value playing with other children and joins in shared play. Tee, like any child, loves playing with other children but if for example, one child were to piss her off, then she'd not want to play with him. Which is perfectly normal, I think.
Your child should be able to approach new challenges with assurance in her own ability. Tee is open to new challenges and is generally quite confident. If she is not good at something, she will persist until she is good at it.
Your child should be aware of her own strengths and weaknesses. Yes, she is. She knows she is smart. She knows she is short. Haha.....
Your child should be able to describe herself in positive terms and talk about abilities. Oh.....she has absolutely no problem doing this. In fact, to the point of cockiness!!!
Your child should welcome and value praise for achievements. Doesn't every child?
Your child should enjoys talking about past experiences, the present and future plans. Tee loves talking. Period. So yes, that includes the past, the present and the future. She loves telling me about what happened at school, she talks about what we're doing at that very moment and she plans what she is going to do in the next hour, day and weekend. Nevermind what Mummy thinks. She has her own plans!
Your child should be able to identify with her own immediate family, relativess and family friends. Totally.
Your child should be able to enjoy taking part in family routines and chores. I guess, as long as it's fun! She goes to school everyday without complaints and in fact, goes with great enthusiasm. She doesn't like picking up her toys so much unless we make it into a game.
Your child should be able to take pride in her own appearance. Definitely. She wants to look perfectly pretty most times, especially when she's going out to meet certain people!
Your child should be able to practice good self-care, often without prompting. Hmm.....she has her moods. There are days when we do have to chase her to brush her teeth! And then days where she gets up and gets dressed all on her own accord.
Is Tee a confident child? Most definitely. In my next post, I shall highlight what you, as an adult, should take note in, about your child and her confidence factor. Watch this space.
Your child should be able to express her wishes and needs clearly and understands when they are not immediately met. Hmm.....I'll say she can perform this with others but with us, her parents (and definitely her grandparents), she may whine if her needs are not met. She's just spoilt and can be manipulative.
Your child should be able to negotiate, argue point of view and accept other's perspectives. Tee has proven this by defending herself and holding her own without our presence. I am very proud of her in this respect. She is also understanding of other's views. It's just ours that she may choose to disagree with!
Your child should show compliance with social expectations. I think this really boils down to how parents set limits for their children and what the definition of social expectations are. Does she sit down and eat in public? Yes. Does she speak with manners? Yes. What else?
Your child should often actively seek sharing and fairness. Errr.....no. She only shares with people she likes and seeks fairness also in a biased manner.
Your child should have a strong sense of fun and humour and is able to engage others in pleasurable interaction. Oh yes, most definitely. Tee is a comedian, well liked by many people.
Your child should positively value playing with other children and joins in shared play. Tee, like any child, loves playing with other children but if for example, one child were to piss her off, then she'd not want to play with him. Which is perfectly normal, I think.
Your child should be able to approach new challenges with assurance in her own ability. Tee is open to new challenges and is generally quite confident. If she is not good at something, she will persist until she is good at it.
Your child should be aware of her own strengths and weaknesses. Yes, she is. She knows she is smart. She knows she is short. Haha.....
Your child should be able to describe herself in positive terms and talk about abilities. Oh.....she has absolutely no problem doing this. In fact, to the point of cockiness!!!
Your child should welcome and value praise for achievements. Doesn't every child?
Your child should enjoys talking about past experiences, the present and future plans. Tee loves talking. Period. So yes, that includes the past, the present and the future. She loves telling me about what happened at school, she talks about what we're doing at that very moment and she plans what she is going to do in the next hour, day and weekend. Nevermind what Mummy thinks. She has her own plans!
Your child should be able to identify with her own immediate family, relativess and family friends. Totally.
Your child should be able to enjoy taking part in family routines and chores. I guess, as long as it's fun! She goes to school everyday without complaints and in fact, goes with great enthusiasm. She doesn't like picking up her toys so much unless we make it into a game.
Your child should be able to take pride in her own appearance. Definitely. She wants to look perfectly pretty most times, especially when she's going out to meet certain people!
Your child should be able to practice good self-care, often without prompting. Hmm.....she has her moods. There are days when we do have to chase her to brush her teeth! And then days where she gets up and gets dressed all on her own accord.
Is Tee a confident child? Most definitely. In my next post, I shall highlight what you, as an adult, should take note in, about your child and her confidence factor. Watch this space.
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